Marriage

It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but marriage that sustains your love.”― Dietrich Bonhoeffer, Letters and Papers from Prison.

The Church has a rich tradition in its teaching on sacramental marriage and covenantal union. The Old Testament authors write of God making a covenant with the chosen people and promising them that they will never be forsaken. The New Testament authors write of Jesus as the new covenant and compare the relationship of Jesus with the Church to the relationship of a husband and wife.

Getting Married at Our Lady’s

Congratulations if you are thinking of getting married, this is a great time in your life and as a parish we would like to celebrate this new beginning with you.

There is a one day marriage preparation course.  There will be a few meetings with the priest to get to know you better and plan the wedding. You may have a Nuptial Mass (without Holy Communion) or a Wedding Service. Contact the Parish Office to make an appointment to discuss dates and other arrangements.

Difficult Questions

Some questions divorced Catholics ask about their status

Q: Can a divorced person receive Holy Communion?

A: Yes, a divorced person who is not remarried is in a situation similar to that of a priest or nun: a single person in the Church with full rights and duties except for the right to enter a new marriage.

Q: Is a divorced person ex-communicated from the Church?

A: No. A Catholic is not ex-communicated when he/she is divorced. However, the right to enter a new marriage must be obtained from the Church.

Q: Does that mean the Catholic who has remarried outside the church can receive Holy Communion too?

A: No. Even though a remarried Catholic is not ex-communicated, it does not mean that he/she can receive Holy Communion. They must first obtain the right to enter a new marriage from the Church.

 

What is marriage?

A: The Catholic Church understands marriage as an enduring and exclusive partnership for the giving and receiving of love and the generation and upbringing of children. Through their mutual consent, the man and the women give themselves to each other in total commitment for the whole of their lives, thereby undertaking the rights and obligations of marriage. For those who have been baptised, a valid marriage is also a sacrament. The Catholic Church also teaches that every sacramental marriage that has been consummated is indissoluble. This is the presumption in every such marriage.

How then is an annulment possible?

A: In every presumption the opposite may be true. If sufficient evidence can be shown that a particular marriage is invalid, the original presumption no longer holds.

A couple entering marriage must have the right intention and mind so that their consent to each other can genuinely produce the reality of a true marriage. They must also be capable of creating and sustaining the marriage relationship. When it can be proved that no true consent was given or that there was an inability to undertake and carry out the obligations of marriage, then the Church may declare a marriage null and void. This statement by the Church that a marriage was invalid from the beginning does not deny that a real relationship existed, nor does it imply ill-will or moral fault. Rather, it is a statement by the Church that, from the beginning, the relationship fell short of at least one of the elements for a binding marriage.

If you having difficulty in your marriage, you are very welcome to speak with Fr Stephen. he can listen to your concerns and also direct you to others sources of help and support.  

If your marriage has broken down and you think that you have grounds for an annulment, please speak with Fr Stephen who can help you through the process